About Mary Dillman
1946 – 2020
Mary E. Dillman was born January 25, 1946. She grew up on a dairy farm in Orono, Minnesota. Her favorite chore was driving the tractor and her favorite pastime was hanging out with all the cats around the barns. She loved going to the island home her parents bought and spoke often of how wonderful her time there was. She then spent her adulthood working in Minneapolis.
Mary moved to New Haven, Connecticut in 1998 to pursue what she considered her calling… her value fulfillment. She spent the last 22 years of her life as a volunteer curator and researcher of the Jane Roberts/Seth material that is housed in the Yale Library archives. Mary became internationally known for organizing, detailing, cross-referencing and coordinating a vast amount of the material.
Mary has also interviewed everyone she could find that knew Rob or Jane. These interviews were recorded and many have been transcribed. She located and procured all written material that referred to Jane and her writing. The biggest service Mary performed was in aiding fellow researchers from all over the world. She was able to tell them where to find what they were looking for when they would visit the archives. And Mary’s reward was in meeting and getting to know other Jane/Seth fans. Talking with people was Mary’s joy! There is a video of Mary talking about her project(s) on the Research page.
Mary was generous with her knowledge of the Seth material, and was a frequent presenter at Seth Net International, the Colorado Seth Conference, The California Seth Conference, the New Awareness Network online conference, and others. Mary, remembered for her hearty laugh, cheerful personality and generous spirit, is deeply missed by many.
After a relatively brief illness, Mary left this reality on December 10, 2020. She is survived by her sisters Jobi and Sue, her brother Jim, and several nieces and nephews.
Mary was much loved and touched and brightened many lives. Here are just a few things that people had to say about her.
“Mary truly was one of a kind. A deeply caring and giving person with a great sense of humor. I am grateful to have known her.” ~Julie Asuma Levene
“Farewell, dear cousin, friend, beautiful soul. You brought light and grace into the world and into the lives of everyone you touched with your gentleness, your strength, and your humor. Your passing leaves a great, unfillable absence, but you live on in many hearts.” ~Genie Smith
“I was pleased to be a part of Mary’s life for the past 30 years. We shared many laughs, meals, long drives, theater excursions, and discussions. We were not just members of the same Seth group, but of the larger Seth community. We were there for each other, to help each other out during physical or emotional difficulties. Her departure has left a vacuum in my life.” ~Karen I. Sanders
“Each of the 20 years I knew Mary reinforced that I’ve never known anyone more natural, genuinely humble, and disinterested in airs of any kind. While I consider her thoroughness of scholarship and depth of understanding of the material unsurpassed, she never inclined to be anyone’s “expert”, or presented her interpretations as anything but her own. Where some might philosophize, she lived the material- with all the curiosity of a scientist and playfulness of a kitten.
“What I learned most from Mary came from listening to her examine her own beliefs. What I remember most is her laughter. Somehow every meeting we had, from our encounter at a Seth conference, to the monthly Seth groups, to later years of lunches with her and Richie- all happened in a dimension apart from the usual sense of time or place I experience in this life. I miss Mary.” ~Bret Logan
“Mary Dillman is a friend. She has transitioned to another reality, but is still with me each day. I remember her in my life as a smart, wise, kind, and happy woman who decided to dedicate her life’s work to her research at Yale. My life has been made richer by being friends with Mary.” ~Jay Foley, MA
“Mary was the guiding lite in my search and understanding & knowledge of the Seth material.” ~Tom Ewing
“Nine years ago, I picked Mary up at the airport in Zurich, Switzerland. In 2011 she had made the long journey from New Haven to Europe to give a talk on her work as a Seth researcher at the Seth Anniversary Conference in Germany.
“A few years earlier we had met in person when I traveled to the U.S. with Ursula Lang, my business partner at the time, to meet Rob Butts and spend a few days in the archives at Yale going through the Seth Material stored there.
“I have fond memories of her extremely interesting introduction to the Seth treasures available at Yale, and especially of her wonderful humor and kindness. Of course, the Seth Material was a splendid connection and provided conversation without end, such as at a dinner, which was also attended by Richard Kendall (1950 – 2020), a former student of Jane’s ESP class, who also lived in New Haven and was a close friend of Mary.
“The Seth Anniversary Meeting in Germany with Mary was of course a wonderful experience for all participants.
“And now also Mary has left physical reality and set off for new adventures in other spheres. I will miss the frequent and long phone calls with her a lot.
“She was able to complete most of the work she had set out to do with the Seth Material in her more than 20 years of working with it, and what was left to do she wisely distributed to other hands before her transition.
“Dear Mary, give my regards to Nadine and Ulrike and Sue and Rich and Jane and Rob and all the others who are already “there” – you must be having a great time and creating wonderful realities!”
What a great spirit. Glad I could recently touch thank her for all she’s done and who she is. We and generations to come are in her debt. I’ll deeply miss her. ~Irene O’Garden
You brought so very much to the Seth community over the many years I’ve known you, dear Mary, your commitment has been full and loving. Here’s to another full and loving experience ‘back home’ now. ‘Til we meet again… ~Lynda Madden Dahl
I really like Mary and all the interactions I’ve had with her.
I also loved and admired her great dedication and passion to her work!
To paraphrase John Donne, all the Seth material and readers are the less.
We will all miss her and her work in ways we won’t even realize!
What will happen to her “orphans” — all the Seth-Jane-Rob material archived at Yale?
She treated her work with such love.
As I’ve literally ended all my correspondence with her, “Keep up your great work!” ~Barrie Gellis Barrie’s Eulogy can be read here.
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